
I once read a story about a lady who walked along a river and saw someone drowning. The lady immediately jumped into the river, saved the drowning person, and just as she was done with CPR, she saw another person drowning. She jumped back into the river and saved this second drowning person. And, yes, as you may have guessed, just as she was down administering CPR to the second person, she saw yet another person drowning. And, yes, she jumped back into the river, and saved the third person. The question posed was at what point should she walk up the river and see what’s causing so many people to drown in the river? Perhaps there’s a broken fence up the river, and if only that was fixed, no more folks would be at risk of falling into the river?

This story stayed with me over the years, maybe because I shared it often at work. Yes, saving people from drowning is urgent and important, and should be prioritized, and, fortunately, often is. Fixing the broken fence is important, and should be prioritized, but often is not. I’d argue it’s urgent, strategically urgent. I was told it was important, but not urgent. That may explain why those types of activities are so rarely prioritized …
I’ve often noticed that there is a strange gravitational force that pulls us to the lower left quadrant in that familiar urgent/important matrix that we have to the left. How can that be, you ask? How is it possible that we wouldn’t spend the majority of our time on the urgent and the important?
I’ll sheepishly admit that I’ve spent more than my fair share in the “not urgent and not important” category. You know, along the lines of the TPS report… And if you’re fortunate enough to not know what a TPS report is, it’s from Office Space, a report you must fill out of little to no consequence to the universe. And if it wasn’t a TPS report then it was fixing a broken process and finding the futility of fighting a senseless bureaucracy in the spectacular Better Off Ted: 2 minutes very well spent watching this clip to the right:

How often have I fallen captive to the temptation of responding to an email, getting a positive reinforcement from feeling I’ve accomplished something in responding to an email that didn’t really matter in the first place, and then getting an additional positive reinforcement from the correspondent, a thanks, which of course I responded to for a third boost of positive reinforcement?
I know I should be careful and deliberate about how I spend my time, how I prioritize the minutes and hours that tick away, and yet the gravity of the lower left hand quadrant is strong. And the allure of completing small, even if not important and not urgent tasks makes it stronger still.
How do you go about choosing your priorities? How many top priorities do you have? What helps you focus on what truly matters?
More thoughts on priorities, and an explanation of the title of the post on Heart of the Matter.
Love the quadrants…and you’re not alone. I join you in the ‘lower left’ more often than I’d like, but awareness helps…encouraging me to be a better steward of my time. Thanks, EW! 😉😘😉
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Thank YOU, Vicki, for your generous words, for your kindness in making me feel like I’m in good company, and for the insightful comment about how to “fight” it: awareness IS the first step, indeed, thank you for shining a light in it!
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Aw…all of that right back to you, my friend! Your reminders were perfect messages for me to hear today. ❤️😘❤️
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The drowning person scenario sounds a lot like my former job. Always striving to follow every step of each and every new process put in place, rather than actually doing the work. It reminded me a lot of high school math class, where it was not enough to get the right answer, you had to show step by step how you got that answer. I once told my bosses that I would rather do the job than keep busy thinking and talking about doing it. (As the Nike slogan goes, Just Do It). They never got it and retirement got me off that treadmill. Too many of us make it our mission to save the “drowning” by doing everything we are asked to do and more. In that process, we are not even able to see that we are drowning too and that the life being sucked out of us by the master manipulators. Happy Thursday. Allan
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Thank you for a terrific insight, Allan! As I read your comment, I actually “felt” it: I, too, lived through those instances where I felt the rotten process trying to suck the marrow out of my bones 😁 Why does a small step forward have to be accompanied by a convoluted and lengthy process around it?
And your math example reminded me of a wonderful story attributed to Nobel Prize winner Niels Bohr, who as a young physics student in Oxford was asked as part of an exam how to measure the height of a building using a barometer. One of his answers was to offer the (expensive) barometer to the janitor in exchange for the information 😁 You know the professor did not appreciate those answers…
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The simple answer in my job was that the “people managers” did not like that we “techies” knew the stuff and they did not. They thought that by developing a step by step process, it would make them look smarter and us look dumber. They were wrong. I had one boss ask me if you could teach common sense. I bit my tongue so I would not reply…You are living proof that you can’t. 😊
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Kudos to you for being able to bite your tongue! Your story reminds me of this:
https://dilbert.com/strip/1996-08-20
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How does one prioritize? It would be different for each person wouldn’t it? Life threatening first, then by due date. Is there a better way?
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I like how you brought that point up: yes, Maslow’s hierarchy dictates that when we lack air to breathe, it’s hard to ponder on how to make the world a better place…
But once our more basic needs are met, I wonder if we “naturally” gravitate to the visible, short-term wins. At work, I noticed how the formal recognition mostly goes to those who put out (metaphorical) fires. Those who worked on making sure that fires never erupted were rarely recognized: how do you prove that a fire really would have occurred if it wasn’t for your efforts?
It’s clear to both of us that less metaphorical fires is better. But how do we encourage efforts to stop them from happening when what we see recognized are mostly heroic fire-fighting effects?
Of course we hold heroic firefighters in the highest regard, as we should. But do we hold the engineers who toil away at creating safer structures and materials in high regard, or dismiss them as, well, nerds? 🤪
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That’s a good question. Recognition. A quiet achiever or a squeaky wheel. Who did the boss see most? An astute boss would recognize both.
I am someone who thinks long term but I suspect more people think about short term gains.
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Funny clip. I’ve never watched that TV series. I hope it’s on Netflix, as I’m going to look for it. And to hell with my chores and other stupid things to do. I want to watch Better Off Ted!
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Well worth watching (WWW :D). It’s been a few years since I’ve seen it, but my favorite episode remains the red lab coat one. But soooooooooooooo many memorable quotes/moments 🙂 Looking forward to hearing what’s yours!
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I love this: “I’d argue it’s urgent, strategically urgent.” That’s so important, I think. We can get stuck in the mode of putting out fires (saving the drowning people), and don’t feel we have time to stop and consider the fence/larger issue. And I agree with Vickie – awareness and keeping this top of mind is so important. Thank you, thank you, EW!!
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Thank you so much ❤ I wish I had a way to encourage more focus on the “strategically urgent” (and thank you for not snickering or calling it an oxymoron!). At work, I actually found many folks allowing a problem they recognized to “fester” until it manifested in the “drowning people” so then they could save them and be the visibly recognized heroes. Again. And again. And again. And they were recognized. Again. And again. And again…
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This is a great lead inn to a discussion that could last weeks! Priorities are in general principles that drive us. Family, home job…But sometimes things pop up that require immediate attention. For example, the woman in your story above I guess could have left to see why people are falling into the river and drowning. That may have saved someone in the future, but at the expense of the people drowning at that time. What if she left them, went to the source of the problem and saw that it was already being fixed. Someone would have drowned simply because she was not there to save them. I guess another question could be, how much of a responsibility is someone else to me and should I risk my own life to save someone else’s. And if you do, back to a primary responsibility…what happens to your family, your home if you are suddenly not there for them.
Your question opens up a world of discussion. Great job here!!!
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I agree with you: it’s an important discussion to be had. And I love your example, since it’s one I struggle with: how can we possibly see the potential of someone drowning and go look for the source? But there are other possibilities… Maybe so many people will start drowning (since no one fixed the bridge and it’s now collapsing) that we simply won’t have the resources to save them all? Maybe the lady can ask the first person she saved to save the other potential folks that might be at risk and go explore the issue?
And you’re spot on: how much should she take on her narrow shoulders? What if she has urgent responsibilities elsewhere? How does she… prioritize?
I would love to know the answers to the questions… or at least have the discussion 🙂
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Great post – and great intro to what you posted on Heart of the Matter. You have such a great way of setting up the IMPORTANT questions. I loved your explanation of one of the reasons we end up in the bottom left. I hadn’t thought of that – so thank you for that gift for my today!
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I love the quadrants too. I’m not always a chart person or a visual learner, but I really like how it simplifies things. Yes, too many times, we’re taken off the things that matter to work on things that don’t matter. You’re so right to think about the source of the problem rather than todays fire or emergency. Thanks so much sharing, makes me think a lot about how I approach work. Yea, maybe email should take a back seat. Ha, ha!
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I like visuals, too 🙂 You know, along the lines of a picture is worth a thousand words? 🙂
I agree with you, and the challenge I find is twofold: first, prioritizing the source rather than the fire, and second that there is so much recognition to putting out fires that I’ve seen people let a problem fester because they know what they’ll get promoted for… The firefighting exercise rather than the avoidance of the fire altogether 😦 How do we solve that?
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I focus on what truly matters to me because I trust myself to know what is best for me. THAT is called wisdom. Does society help me be who I am, probably not. Does that matter? Nope, I carry on in spite of it…
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Interesting! I wonder: does society stand in your way of being who you are?
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Ah ha! I wondered where you were. For some reason your replies aren’t showing up to me so I came here to see. I haven’t heard from you so I thought I should go searching. Is WP playing games with us?
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Remember a long, long time ago (still in this galaxy 🙂 ) you told me about an issue with the way I was scheduling posts? If you hadn’t told me about how they weren’t showing in the stream, I wouldn’t have noticed, so thank you, again, for telling me that things aren’t working as they should. Help me understand what it is this time?
Given our conversation from earlier today, I’m honored and flattered that you noticed a delay in the response. Since it’s you, I’ll tell you that I recently lost my mother and since then, it’s been difficult for me to get back into a daily routine. I’m working on it 🙂 So if that’s the delay in the response, plmk, but if it’s not showing up on your notifications, plmk, too, and I’ll work to fix it, just like with the scheduled posts!
In both cases: thank YOU!
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I’m sorry for your loss. My condolences, it takes a long time to get over losing your mother. Be kind to yourself.
As for what’s NOT happening on WP with your replies happens every so often. Instead of the system notifying me that you’ve replied, letting me see what you said [like it did this time ironically] I get zero notification that you’ve replied.
When that happens and I remember that I left a comment I go back [time permitting] to see if/what the blogger said in reply to my comment. It’s not a big deal that the notification doesn’t work all the time, it’s just totally random and fixes itself eventually. Like this morning your reply was here.
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Thank you, Ally x2!
Mmmm… I’ve wondered sometimes about delayed responses and now I’m starting to ponder if it’s not a human thing, but a WP thing. I’m not 100% how to start addressing it though.
Did the notification you saw this morning make it appear like it was a recent response from this morning, or was it buried in your feed?
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It was in the feed just like I’d expect it to be. I try not to fret about WP glitches, they seem to fix themselves… until they don’t again.
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Wise words I should adopt more often!
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My daughter comes first. Pets. Me. Husband. Making sure the house doesn’t completely fall apart. Now, the past two years my parents have moved far up the list simply because they needed my attention
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I like how pets come before even you do 😛 And I love how you prioritize PEOPLE vs. things. I know someone to whom (I kid you not) their car comes first…
And you’re a wonderful daughter ❤
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Thank you! But my pets…seriously…they are love
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Like what Twain said: “If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous he will not bite you. This is the principal difference between a dog and man.”
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Interesting post. It offers a lot of food for thought
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Thank you, Luisa, my mind is churning, too! If you have any insight on it, please do share?
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🙏🙏🙏
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So hard when it feels so good to get the little easy tasks out of the way. Sometimes it feels like a matter of getting rid of the clutter so I can focus on the larger projects. Or maybe that’s just how I justify it to myself. Honestly, I think it’s a mix of the two. But as a deadline gets closer, it becomes much easier to focus on the major task at hand and ignore the minutiae.
That’s my two cents anyway. 🙂
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I SOOOOOO know what you’re saying! I remember that stories of fitting pebbles in the jar, but it’s so much easier to procrastinate with the big ones and move little grains of sand around…
Yes, where would we be without the sweet sound of deadlines swishing by? Should I send you one of these? 😁
https://despair.com/products/procrastination
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So funny! I’d love to meet the people who come up with those excellent posters. I read the others. The one on Consulting is particularly on point, I’m sure.
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This is a question I’m asked frequently during job interviews, but really, the answer is simple.
First in, first out, but…
The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
At least with work deadlines!
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Too much drowning exists while we argue over the numbering of priorities.
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👏 I once met a gentleman who worked on the original moon landing. He said that if we were planning it today, 10 years later we’d still be in an analysis-paralysis…
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My Dad received his Engineering Degree from Georgia in the mid 1940’s. He said he and his classmates were taught and tested on the reasons why it was impossible to successfully land a man on the moon. And yet they were the part of the technical community that made it happen.
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